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A case of arrested development

9/5/2014

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Erik Erikson’s stages of psychosocial development explain how a healthy human passes from infancy to late adulthood.  There are eight of them, and if you’re so moved, you can Google for more information.  In any event, let’s for a minute play his stages against our society’s current inclination to say that sixty is the new fifty.  I don’t quite get the concept.  I’m more an is-what-it-is type.

I’d say I have arrested development and am still in the 40-64 years, Generativity vs. Stagnation Stage.  I suppose that’s why I have a Pay List, versus a Bucket List.  The last one, 64 years-death, is Ego Integrity vs. Despair where an individual struggles with the  value of his or her life.  I’ll save that question for when I feel older.

One of the things about retirement is I have the time and inclination to examine my own behavior—not always a pleasant activity.  I’ve decided that my gardening-thing--I amended my Pay List to gardening versus just orchids—directly relates to my developmental stage.  I want things to grow and prosper, and I want to nurture them to make it happen.  I spend the last many years growing nurses—an exceedingly rewarding yet tiring enterprise.  Now, I have a need to grow other things.  I never had a green thumb.  But in truth, what I didn’t have was the time or the patience to learn about growing healthy plants.  I was focused on growing healthy people.

My friend Ellie accused Steve and I of turning into Ozzie and Harriet.  I don’t think it was the garden so much as the apron—which I made, by the way.  (It is not all fluffy and frilly.  It’s a chef’s apron and combats my tendency to wear what I cook.)  It all comes back to the same thing, generativity.

As I examine many of the other activities on my Pay List, I form the same conclusion.  Like many of you, I spent so many hours working—and in my case writing, too—during the past 45-odd years that I didn’t do many of the things appropriate for my developmental stage.  (Hey, it’s a theory, and this is a blog.  I get to say what I want.)  Several things that are now more important to me—gardening, volunteering, helping animals, sewing, traveling with My Stevie, and cooking more organic, clean and healthy—seem to support my position.

How about you?  Is your development arrested, too?  And have I actually supported the notion that I thumbed my mostly Irish nose at in the first paragraph?  Is sixty really the new fifty?

Later.

GEB

6 Comments
Robb
9/5/2014 04:25:35 am

So yeah. You keep filling in the blanks because I'm eligible next year and, you know, it's a good thing to maybe see what's waiting in the wings. I think Maslow might be disappointed in me if I don't reach the top of the pyramid and achieve self actualization. But then again, he really don't give a damn. Now then, Australia/New Zealand and South Africa and its Garden Route and into a Mikado (tour operator) safari just might be the ticket to ease on into retirement .... But I digress

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Gregg
9/5/2014 03:06:12 pm

Robb, I'm trying to prepare you for what is to come. I suspect your development is arrested as well. 😏

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Nancy J. Cohen link
9/5/2014 05:25:55 am

I don't know that I understand this analysis, but it appears as though you are in a good place.

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Gregg
9/5/2014 03:04:10 pm

Nancy, you are so grounded that I'm not surprised my loose connections don't do it for you. Thanks for the comment.

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connie
9/5/2014 12:46:43 pm

oh Gregg u r to funny I sure love ya seesta

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Gregg
9/5/2014 03:07:44 pm

Connie, Thanks for reading my blog. I'm glad you see the humor. Remember when we were young... I'll bet Mom and Eddie thought our development was a bit arrested then as well. Love you.

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